Have you noticed all the complaining going on around you?
I’ve noticed it a lot on Facebook (which is why I was inspired to write this article.) One person updates their status by complaining about something. And then I see updates from other people joining in on the ‘fun.’
What is this joy of complaining?
Why do so many people like talking about their day to day life as if it is a burden? Why do people allow outside influences, such as the economy, market chaos, friends, family, etc, to make them feel bad? Why do people talk about what’s wrong all the time? What is the benefit to all this low vibrational verbiage?
For many, it’s a way to get attention, to not feel alone. It is the way that people are used to connecting to others. And it works! When someone is complaining about anything, that person can almost always find another person who will share a similar view or share something worse!
Like attracts like. The more someone complains, the more that person finds something to complain about. And that person will attract others of similar energy. It’s like a super virus. The more you are exposed to it, the worse it gets. And even though you get attention through all this, it drains your energy. In the end you don’t feel that great.
Fortunately, you don’t need to bring your ‘vibe’ down to get the attention you want. There are other ways to feel supported and connect to others. And there are other ways to look at what is happening around you. Just because the circumstances are not exactly what you would like to see doesn’t mean you can’t still be happy.
If you choose to focus on the positives, like still attracts like. You will get more positives. You feel good. You will gain support and attention from those who love to feel good, lifting your vibes even higher.
So, how do you move beyond complaining to enjoying life? Below are 3 simple ways.
#1 Be Grateful
Focus on all you are thankful for. No matter what the experience, you can find the good. The more you do it, the easier it is to do. Gratitude heals.
#2 Breathe
Most of us walk around holding our breath, just waiting for the other shoe to drop. Instead, remember to breathe. It brings you back to the present moment and away from the fear/worry of the past/future. To breath is to inspire. Inspire yourself today.
#3 Healthier Choices
Complaining is a choice. When you notice the complaining bug is back, stop and choose another view of the experience. Just like a coin has two sides, you can always find another side to what is happening. Hint: Choose a side that feels good 
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I work in a large academic teaching hospital where there is a fair amount of tragedy, suffering and grief. The staff are exposed to incredibly stressful personal interactions and deal with very heavy and burdened situations. There is a definite need to VENT and that can often be confused for complaining. Believe me, a grieving mother does not want to hear that she is attracting negativity and that all she needs to do is choose gratitude. There is an inevitible necessity to go through pain and struggle to find the gratitude and joy. Hope is in the struggle and, in my humble opinion, it is not possible to feel joy or even know that it is joy without going through the suffering that makes the feeling of joy palpable or even namable. So when I vent about the intensity of the suffering that I witness in sitting with a woman who has lost a child, I can only hope that there is an unburdening in the complaining that I do to my co-workers that is not a negativity attractor.
You are so right! We should all take your advice and be grateful for the people in our lives who we love and who love us. I will make a conscious effort to think positive and push negative thoughts behind. I’m flipping the coin.
I totally agree with this wonderful article. If you’re not careful that negative energy will attach itself to you. I try and make a conscious effort to keep this from happening. :~)))
I teach the power of choice to my elementary students in my after-school program. You have to get them early so they can teach the adults
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You’re exactly right. Thank you for sharing the ways to stop complaining. The law of attraction works at all times and if we focus on the negative, that is what we will get and vice versa. Gratitude is always the best medicine because we can always find something to be grateful.. always! Thanks again.
julie i always knew you were a smart child . you have surpassed all expectations iv’e had for you. my day started out sooo stressfull . after reading your article , i just “breathed”.i”m so blessed to have you as my daughter.