As a life coach, I have found harmony in my work and family life by becoming clear on what I needed to do in order to make myself happy – but it wasn’t always this way. For a long time I wasn’t really living; I was participating in life on autopilot. Each morning, I woke up feeling numb and dreading the work that I was doing at that time, not aware of all that I had created in my life.
I finally realized that by saying over and over “someday,” I was holding myself back from feeling joyful in the present moment! By becoming aware of this habit that I had created, I could then choose to believe something else, something that resonated with what I wanted to attract into my reality. This action of creating new habits allowed me to attract what I wanted as opposed to what I didn’t want. Awareness is never-ending. We continue to evolve and expand every moment of our lives by taking care of ourselves in order to attract a constant flow of abundance into our lives.
Get in touch with your feelings
My first real introduction to energy work was when I was in school to be an esthetician. It was there that I first heard about Reiki, Polarity, acupuncture, shiatsu and many other energy modalities. Energy work helps to clear stuck energy and keep the good vibes flowing. Whenever I was going through a rough time, the perfect book, person or solution would come to mind. The more I followed this inner guidance/energy, the easier my life became. The funny thing was I clearly remember saying to myself, “Is this too good to be true?”
Now, I acknowledge my feelings objectively in order to manage my emotional energy or emotional charge, positive or negative. I choose to stay in a higher charge/vibration, so it is necessary to stay neutral when sorting through my feelings. Instead of judging my feelings, I look objectively at a situation and decide what I want to do in order to move forward. I utilize my emotions as a guide to get clear on what I want and what I don’t want. Expressing how I feel on paper has made it easy to uncover any beliefs that are holding me back.
Let go of perfection
Growing up felt like a struggle. I never really fit in; I wasn’t comfortable at home. I jumped from one achievement to another, expecting to find lasting joy but never really getting there. I hated my life — it was so hard, and I was tired. It was always, Do a little more. Learn a little more. You don’t know enough. I felt unworthy, unappreciated, taken advantage of and angry.
I realized that the person I was angry at was me, for not appreciating myself, seeing my own value and giving time to myself. I was tired of feeling like the victim, of promising myself that someday I would have everything I wanted in life. It then became clear that if I wanted others to treat me a certain way, I needed to hold the vibration that would reflect it back to me. This realization allowed me to focus on my own happiness.
Get clear on what YOU want vs. what others want
I permanently took the pressure off myself to be perfect by knowing that everything already is perfect. I stopped allowing others’ needs and opinions create my life. Instead of doing what I thought everyone else wanted me to do, I started to do what I wanted to. By slowing down enough to appreciate the abundance that already existed in my life, I had set the pace to understand my emotions and what they were telling me.
As a result, my life has transformed in all areas because I take time out of each day to stop “doing.” I take care of myself on both an inner and outer level. I focus on my inner self with quiet music or silence, which lets my inner voice speak and give my mind a rest. I use this time to script about my thoughts, feelings and inspired actions. Taking care of myself on an outer level involves massages, acupuncture, holistic exercises, and walking.
Live abundantly
Using the law of attraction means letting go of past experiences that have held you back and caused emotional chaos in your life. Your experiences shape your beliefs, and your beliefs create your future. What you believe for yourself comes from how you want to feel as a result of the energy that you put into the universe. It’s about choosing your life, moment to moment.
Now, I’m getting everything done as a mom, wife and entrepreneur with less effort. The power is in your energy — I’m living my life empowered and mentoring others to do the same.
