Over the last several weeks, I have been getting a consistent message:
Be Yourself.
I’ve heard this message from the radio shows I’ve been hosting, from movies I’ve watched, from TV shows and from the clients I’ve talked to.
Being yourself seems to be a lot easier than running around trying to be someone other than you. Trying to be someone else is just so tiring. (For a great enactment of this, watch the movie Soccer Mom.)
Often times we think people will like us better if we look or act a certain way. We’re afraid to act goofy or say something stupid. If you’re in business, you may think you will get more clients if you present your message a certain way. But unfortunately, our message or look is rarely congruent with ourselves. What usually happens is that we expend a lot of energy trying to please everyone and we are left feeling scattered, drained and unfulfilled. We’re afraid of being rejected but we reject our selves. This is no way to live.
In my recent interview with Purpose Coach, Jeff Baker, Jeff defined purpose as ‘that which you are most compelled to do.’ It is that thing, that activity, that subject matter that you gravitate towards. And when you are ‘doing this thing’ you are being yourself and you are enjoying your life. You are living your passion.
When you are being yourself and living your passion, people who resonate with you will naturally be drawn to you. You won’t ever feel rejected because you’re accepting of yourself. And others will accept you as well.
Over the last several weeks, I’ve come to a deeper understanding of what my purpose is. While I know that I’ve always enjoyed empowering people to let go of their baggage and create their best life, I realize that I’ve been leaving out parts of myself. I have been guilty of trying to put out the ‘right’ message, instead of just putting out my message.
I feel very comfortable talking about topics, such as, energy, global consciousness, spirituality, metaphysics, self-empowerment, awareness, paranormal ideas, Law of Attraction, conscious living and more. These are topics that some might consider ‘airy-fairy’ or ‘woo-woo.’ But that’s okay. Interestingly enough though, I also enjoy talking about science and technology. And this is perhaps how I am unique. I integrate the hard and soft sciences in a practical way to help people understand their lives and enjoy them more.
On this blog and in future issues of my newsletter, you will see more from me on the above topics.
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Realizing what your passion is can be easier than actually following it. We can often come up with excuses why we can’t do what we love. If we give more power to the excuses than ourselves, we can lose hope; we feel powerless to change the situation and eventually frustration and/or depression sets in.
There was one time when I really wanted to go on a retreat. It was for 21 days. Can you imagine all the thoughts that came up for why I couldn’t do it? At first I told myself that I couldn’t do it because… someone needed to pick up my wife, Olga, from work every night; I would be losing 3 weeks of work – how would I pay the bills? How was I going to pay for the retreat? How was I going to get myself there?
Well, I ended up going. It was one of the most transformational events of my life. I’m glad that I stuck with it. I’m glad that I did not let what I thought were big huge obstacles to limit me from experiencing what I really wanted.
Questions for you:
1) What do you love doing? What is your passion?
2) What’s stopping you from having this or more of this?
3) What needs to change for you spend even more time doing what you love?
I would love to read your answers below.
(If you need help making the changes or don’t know what needs to be changed, please see how I can support you.)
