What habits define you?

Currently in my household, there are 3 people. Myself, my wife and my friend who is staying with us for the time being.

Over time I’ve become aware of little things that define each of us.

For example, from my home office in the basement, I can hear what is happening in the rest of the house. I can tell who is coming down the stairs based on simply on how it sounds. My wife wears slippers so it sounds like she drags her feet when she comes down the stairs. My friend comes down with more velocity and weight. He is younger and the tallest of us all…

Here’s another example. We all share the same bathroom. To use our shower, I would turn on the water for the bathtub and turn a nob to divert water to the shower.  When I’m done, I always ‘turn off’ the shower so that next time when the water is turned on, it first comes out of the tub faucet. My wife does this as well. But our friend tends to leave the shower ‘on’ so that when the water is turned on, water immediately comes out of the shower head.  Now I always know who took the last shower.

Why am I telling you all this?

We all have habits that define who we are, whether we realize it or not. And our habits affect how we live each day; they define what we experience; they dictate whether we are happy or not, wealthy or not, healthy or not.

Now, how you use the shower or come down the stairs may not have a significant effect on your life.

But there *are* habits you have that do have a significant effect. You wouldn’t be living the life you have now if it weren’t for your current habits.

Do you know what they are?

I’m talking about your beliefs, how you use your time, how you respond to life circumstances, your view of the world, what you think of other people, what you think about yourself, what you like to eat, what do you think about when you eat, how you spend money, what you think of money, etc. etc.

Everything you do, think, say, believe is based on some habit.

To cool thing is that once you become aware of what your habits are, you can choose something different. And when you choose differently, your experience changes – your life changes.

This is what I do as your life coach… I help you become aware of subconscious habits that run your life. If there is an area of your life that you’re not happy with, we look at it together to see what is out of alignment with what you want.  We look at the patterns and uncover the defining habit.  Once you’re aware of the habit, you can choose to change it. It’s quite simple.

It’s likely that my friend isn’t even aware that he leaves the shower ‘on.’ It’s likely that my wife doesn’t even know that it sounds like she drags her feet when she walks. And again in these situations it doesn’t really matter to me.  If it bothered me that my friend leaves the shower on, I would tell him and I’m sure he would become more conscious of changing his behavior. Likewise, if it bothered me that my wife drags her feed, I would tell her and *maybe* she would change.

The point is from my perspective I can more easily see the habits in other people. Just like I’m sure you can see things your friends do and wonder why they don’t see it.

If these habits work for them, great! And if not, we can work together to change them so that they’re happier, healthier, wealthier or whatever they desire.

It is possible to become aware of your own habits and change them. You don’t necessarily need someone to help you.  But the process is usually faster and more fun with someone who offers a non-judgmental perspective.

I currently have room in my schedule for 5 more clients. If there is a part of your life that you’d like to upgrade, let’s have a chat and see how coaching might support you.  Call me at 617-332-9659 to schedule an introductory session.

I look forward to connecting with you.

Nat