My friend Joe Rubino contacted me a couple of days ago to let me know about a self-help gifts giveaway that he created. Basically this is a site where some of the top experts in the self-help industry have donated their wisdom to support others.

Many people I’ve talked to recently have expressed feeling overwhelmed. Thus, I donated a report to help people transform their overwhelm into inspired action. You can get this report here.

In the past when I used to feel overwhelmed, I knew I had a lot on my mind. I was worried about whether I could get it all done. I was worried about the unfavorable consequences if I didn’t get it done. I was focused on how little time I had left… etc.  Basically I had a lot of mind chatter and it was making me crazy.

So the process I teach in the report will help you calm your mind, clear your energy, and get guidance on what your next step is.

Click the title below to get the report:

3 Steps to Transform Your Overwhelm into Inspired Action

re: The Self Help Gifts Giveaway

I’d recommend that you check out the Gifts Giveaway to see if there is anything else that you resonate with.

Note of caution: The site can be a bit overwhelming because there are tons of gifts. I would scroll through it all and feel out which ones really capture your attention. Stick with those and ignore the rest.

I remember when I first came across a site like this many years ago. I tried to download every single thing. It was a big job and then I didn’t even read or listen to a quarter of the stuff I downloaded! It was just too overwhelming and became yet another thing to do.

So keep this in mind as you check out the site here.

Self Help Gifts Giveaway

With Passion and Prosperity,
Nat

There are so many different things that make us feel overwhelmed.  Most people blame the ‘outer’ stuff for their stress.

By outer stuff, I mean:

1) Your never ending To-Do list
2) Your different roles and responsibilities
3) Traffic, people, individual circumstances

Because many people blame others or their circumstances for their stress and overwhelm, they believe they need to just live with it. “That’s they way it has to be.”

But it’s not true.

Through the Law of Attraction, we’ve established that what we put out there is we get back. So, that ‘outer’ stuff is just stuff that we’ve created for ourselves. Our circumstances are just symptoms of the vibes (our ‘inner’ stuff) we’ve been putting out; these are the patterns we’ve established for ourselves up until now.

When we look at our ‘inner’ stuff, we can become aware of the belief systems that are creating your never ending to-do list? We see what belief systems make you choose to work all the time; that keep you feeling stuck and confused and afraid to take the next step.

These are the things that people don’t stop to feel or think. Most don’t even know to stop and think that this is what’s creating the stress and overwhelm.

Once we acknowledge what our patterns/habits are, we can then very easily change them. Changing our habits changes the energy we put out which then changes our circumstances.

So, then, the question we need to ask ourselves is,

“How do I create stress and overwhelm for myself?”

Let’s look at 3 different ways you might feel more stressed and overwhelmed:

#1 – You repeatedly say (and feel) that you don’t have time – “I’m too busy”

When you repeatedly say and feel like you don’t have time, you create more of the same. You will attract more things to do to fill up your time. You may even be really good at attracting unexpected situations that eat up your time, like long lines at the store, traffic, interruptions at work, people who just want to chat, etc.

If you notice that you’re repeatedly saying you don’t have time, know that this is really a cry for change.  What you’re actually saying is that you don’t have time for yourself. You’re too busy doing stuff that you think is more important.

This is a good opportunity to re-evaluate your priorities and see how you can fit “Me-time” into your schedule.  Find time to do nothing but take care of you – meditate, take a walk, exercise, sit outside and enjoy the sunshine, get a massage.

#2 – You keep thinking about what you have left to do, what you haven’t done yet, how much more you need to do and how little time you have to do it all

You can’t win with this one. You’re trying to fit a lot in a little.

By focusing on everything you think you need to do, you split your focus and become scattered.  By continuously checking how much time you have left, thinking you don’t have enough time, you waste even more time.

Your attention moves from one thing to the next, to the next, and so on, until your mind and emotions are spinning out of control.  In the end, you may or may not get it all completed but in either case, you felt terribly stressed.

There are a couple of beliefs/habits that often contribute this type of scenario.

o    You procrastinate and wait until the last minute to do things
o    You believe you need to do more to get the results you want
o    You believe you haven’t done enough
o    You make up stories in your head about what bad things will happen if you don’t do something

Thinking about the Law of Attraction, what do you create more of as a result of the above habits?

#3 – You have unreasonably high expectations of yourself; you are overly self-critical and hard on yourself.

As a result of this pattern, nothing you do is good enough. And yet you keep on trying, never really being satisfied. You believe that if you just did a little more, you would be happier. But that day never comes. You’re aiming for perfection but it never comes because you keep on moving the target.

Many things you do take a long time to do because you’re perfecting the process. Or you have projects you never complete because they’re not good enough or you’ve made it too hard to complete.

Because of your high expectations, you sabotage yourself by piling on more than any human could possibly do and then beat yourself up when you don’t follow through.

You may also put a lot pressure on yourself to get things done or do it right.

As a result, you will also attract people into your life who are overly self-critical of themselves and you. You may attract a boss who is never satisfied and continually asks you to revise your work. You may attract high-pressure situations that never really allow you to relax or breathe deeply. You find yourself always on the go.

To change this pattern, you need to appreciate yourself more. Be happy for what you have accomplished. Break down projects into baby steps that you can follow through on. Give yourself a reasonable amount of time to finish projects. Make it okay if you don’t finish something by your self-imposed due date.

For additional help in moving beyond your overwhelm, check out our upcoming Beyond the Overwhelm group coaching program.

Dear Healers, Coaches, Consultants, Solo-Entrepreneurs…

Are you tired of feeling stressed and overwhelmed?

• Do you often say that you are so busy or you don’t have time?
• Feel pulled in different directions by your partner, your children, your work/business — without time to devote to yourself?
• Do you keep putting off things you know you should be doing?
• Or frequently ask yourself, “What’s wrong with me, why can’t I handle this? Why is this so hard?”

We can help.

When you join our 6-week energy-shifting coaching program, you will be part of a supportive community who understands what you’re feeling and what you’re going through. We will provide the space for you to be deeply heard without judgment. And through our time together, you were learn to:

** Be more present and live in the moment
** Feel more grounded and centered
** Clear out the energy in you that causes stress and overwhelm
** Be productive and focused no matter what is going on around you
** Move from being depleted to being energized
** Enjoy more peace of mind.
** Prevent your mind-chatter from controlling and stopping you
** Have more time to yourself, and actually enjoy it

We will meet for one hour every week via phone. You will also be supported by like-minded colleagues through an online community forum. Recordings of each session will be provided for you to download to review whenever you’d like.

In summary, you’ll receive:

* 6 x 60-minute group sessions via teleconference
* Customized coaching by Nat, a coach and entrepreneur who has transformed his overwhelm into peace of mind and productivity
*Exercises to stay centered amidst the chaos going on around (or in!) you
*Recordings of each session
*Unlimited email support between sessions
*Access to a community forum where you can interact and get support from other members (never feel alone again!) and get access to valuable resources

Your cost: $197  (Register by September 8th and receive a $50 discount)

Our next program starts Tuesday, September 15th and will run for 6 weeks.

Dates: Tuesdays, September 15th, 22nd, 29th, October 6th, 13th, 20th
Time: 2:30-3:30pm EST

Register Here

Here’s what one of our clients had to say about this class:

“The reason that I came to participate in the “Beyond the Overwhelm” class at Prosperity Lighthouse was professional, but the effects that I have seen in my life have reached past my work into my personal relationships – both with friends and family, as well as with myself. By using scripting and positive evidence in my everyday life, I realized that I needed to become more specific about what things (both large and small) I want to experience. The act of writing down my thoughts when I begin to feel agitated or unhappy gives me a space to separate myself from whatever the situation might be for long enough to figure out why I’m feeling this way and what I can do to feel differently. By using the scripting process,  I no longer hold onto the “mind chatter” that was filling up my life because I don’t need to keep thinking and talking about something in order for someone else to validate my feelings – my emotions become legitimate to me once they are out of my head and on paper, and  that fact has made an enormous difference in the way that I function. Without that negative energy in my life, I feel freer to move forward in my relationships and my journey to discover work that I can be passionate about.

Nat and Julie serve as calm, secure, and focused guides through this process of self-discovery. They are brilliant at providing different perspectives from which to understand why we are preventing ourselves from finding true abundance and what we can do to stop sabotaging ourselves. With a good sense of humor, a clear purpose, and sturdy confidence in the methods that they teach, Nat and Julie make  the daunting task of understanding ourselves in relation to the universe a transparent and fun experience that carries on throughout life.” – J. Uyeno

Register Here

(Remember, if you sign up by September 8th, you save $50.)

I look forward to having you join us!

Warm Regards,

Nat Couropmitree
Inner Harmony Coach

If you find yourself feeling overwhelmed often, it is a good sign that you are operating from a place of lack.

Here are the common symptoms:

• You are not present; you’re thinking about the past or worrying about the future
• You often don’t know what happened to your money or time
• You find yourself thinking about what is not working in your life
• You take action out of need, guilt or desperation
• You’re not enjoying yourself; you’re not happy.
• You don’t make time to relax; you’re always on the go
• You don’t think very highly of yourself; in fact, you’re quite hard on yourself
• You are so entrenched in your ‘stuff’ that you miss new opportunities
• You become a prisoner to your emotions; they control you.
• You feel drained and unsupported
• You aren’t sure what you want anymore; you’re unclear and frustrated.
• You scramble to do a lot but don’t see any tangible results
• You believe that what you have or what you do is not enough
• You frequently worry about your bills or how little money you have and think having more money will solve your problems

What happens as a result is that you’re always trying to compensate for what you don’t have or what you don’t like. You keep on trying, keep on doing more, spending more time and more money, only to get the same results as before and feel worse! You never really ‘get to’ where you want to be.

Talk about overwhelming!

I lived this way for many years. It’s not a fun way to live.

Fortunately, the above symptoms are just your bad habits, and habits can be replaced. Here are a few things you can do differently.

1. Several times a day, write down what you appreciate and get into the feeling of gratitude
2. Be happy – just because
3. Make time to relax and do something fun each day
4. Make a list of your past successes and add to this list

The more you make room for these new habits, the more room you’ll create for the things you want. And you’ll life will become simpler (read: not overwhelming) because you’re only focusing on what you want.

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We have a proprietary coaching process that energetically supports you to create more room for what you want. If you are tired of feeling overwhelmed and want to experience more abundance, let us support you.  Just click on the link below.

Beyond the Overwhelm

Being a mom and an entrepreneur is the experience that you create for yourself, and I view it as an ever-changing adventure. One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned is to master adapting to change.

Schedules change all the time between juggling the kids, your husband or partner, house maintenance and running a business. While most days work at maximum flow, with everything on task, on time and on schedule, there are days that seem as though you are hitting every rock on your path down the peaceful river.

How can you easily adjust to the moments in the day that don’t go as planned? Consider surrendering to what is. The only change you can make is in how you respond to your experiences. Your emotional response is what creates feelings of joy or anxiety.

Here’s an example: both kids are home sick today. Both my 5- and 3-year-old woke up with temperatures and stomach aches, and suddenly a day of chaos flashed before me, which was nothing like the productive day of deadline driven work that I had planned on. A wave of anxiety passed over me as I wondered, How am I going to pull everything off?

In the past, I would have continued to focus on my problem for the rest of the day, getting more and more stressed, knowing that I had a class to teach that night on top of everything. Instead, I realized that I wasn’t going to get anything done feeling anxious. I stepped back, took a few breaths and did an exercise that helped me shift from feeling anxious to accepting that this was a challenge I could overcome.

Instead of running around being the mom-taxi, I would be at home all day, working at a leisurely pace and taking hug breaks throughout the day! As a result of shifting how I felt about the changes, what was needed to get done, got done! I lowered my expectations of what I wanted to complete for the day down to one important task. It ended up being an easy day.

Over the past few years, I’ve become an expert at living my life while my business grows. I have created a program called Beyond the Overwhelm for Mom Entrepreneurs to support other women who are tired of living an overwhelmed life. This six week group coaching program will address moving Beyond the Overwhelm as a woman and as a businesswoman in order to achieve abundance and balance.

For more information and to register, visit ProsperityLighthouse.com/moms

P.S. In celebration of Mother’s Day, we’re offering a few bonuses. You’ll want to be one of the first so sign up so that you can take advantage of our gifts!

Listen to Julie share her story about being a ‘crazy busy’ mom and entrepreneur and learn a few tips on creating balance even when you feel you have too much to do.

(Length: 41 minutes)

Just a few years ago my life was way out of balance. A chaotic mess to be brutally honest. I was an unhappy, successful spa owner trying to figure out how to be mommy, continue to contribute financially and find the joy I had lost. Luca was almost a year old and Sessina was almost 3, I was numb, overwhelmed and running around trying to find the path out of my “crazy busy” life. There was a large part of me just wanting to be home, a traditional housewife raising the kids. I envied my “stay at home” friends and clients. Although, they didn’t have an answer to the balance question either.  The more I chased happiness, the more out of balance I became.

How the heck did I get here and where is the yellow brick road back to happiness? The way back “home” was to look inside, the answer was always there.

Some people are so out of balance they don’t even realize it! That was me… I was successful, had a family, home in the suburbs…what was wrong with me? I had everything I wanted! Why wasn’t I happy?

We have so many things we juggle: family, work, social commitments, etc. So, what does balance look like? Balance is a personal perspective. What seems like chaos to one person is a fun life for the other. You are the only one who can choose the pace for your life. What do you want?

Tip #1 – Take time for yourself.

Exercise, meditate, write, do something just for you every day to re-energize and recharge. What do you enjoy doing that gives yourself a mental vacation? At least once a month, give yourself a longer treat, a massage, energy treatments, take a bath.  Make the time for yourself, stop putting yourself last. Take time for yourself now, the future may be too late.

Tip #2 – Check in objectively throughout the day.

Get out of autopilot mode, connect to yourself and allow yourself to feel. What do you notice? Being aware of your emotional energy is an important tool in staying balanced. I honor and acknowledge all my emotions, feeling good or feeling bad. I use it as guidance in helping me understand the experience I’m in.  What do you notice about your body? What conversations are going on in your mind? Take a few minutes throughout the day to check in with yourself. The only control you have is how you respond to experiences.

Tip #3 – Be authentic in communicating and relating to others.

Listen without judgement or worrying about what you are going to say in response. Be who you are, not what you think others want you to be. It is so much easier to attract the friendships, relationships, partnerships and experiences into your life that are in exact alignment with who you are naturally. Difficulty in relationships show up when you resist.

Maintaining a balanced life can be challenging at times. But life would be boring if we didn’t have some experiences that challenge us. The tips above have given me a happier, healthier and more peaceful life. I hope they lead you there too.

In working with overwhelmed entrepreneurs over the years, I’ve seen that the main reason people procrastinate and experience overwhelm is because of their inner mind chatter.

If you’ve ever experienced mind chatter – and really, who hasn’t? – you feel like your thoughts are spinning out of control.  It makes you crazy!  What occurs in your mind is that you have a lot of competing thoughts pulling you in different directions.  You might say you want to do something and yet you have another thought that tells you why you can’t do that, or why you aren’t good enough to do it or it has to be done a certain way.  Basically what happens is you play this inner game of tug-of-war and get pulled in so many different directions that you end up feeling totally stuck.  The outcome is that you don’t have a clear path of which way to go or what the next step to take is.

When you are experiencing this chatter and feel stuck, you generally don’t understand why you are feeling stuck.  When you don’t understand and the energy around it feels heavy, then there is no clear path and you will procrastinate or push it off.  This creates even more feelings of overwhelm because you know in the back of your mind you need to take care of it.  The paradox is that you continue to push it off because it feels too overwhelming to do right now, so you are caught in a vicious cycle.

What can you do about this mind chatter?

What I like to do when my mind is racing is use the process that I created called “The Chatter Stopper.” The basic idea of the Chatter Stopper is for you to stop and become clear on your competing thoughts that:

• Prevent you from understanding why you feel stuck, and
• What you can do to resolve it.

There are five basic steps to completing the Chatter Stopper that will help you detangle and focus your thoughts and energy.

The first step is to acknowledge and write down how you are feeling.  Give yourself a break and make it okay to have all the thoughts that are flying through your head. Most people try to ignore or push away what they’re feeling, telling themselves that they don’t have time to deal with it.  By doing this, it only adds to the mind chatter.  When you can stop and truly acknowledge how you feel, then in essence, you are acknowledging yourself, expressing to yourself that you really are important.

After you can get out on paper and acknowledge how you are feeling, you can then explore, ”What is it that I don’t want?” This uncovers or pulls out all the competing thoughts, the yeah-buts, and the thoughts that tell you why you can’t do this or why it will be hard.  These thoughts are the thing that make it hard for you and prevent you from moving forward.  This could be based on past experience or beliefs that you have about yourself, behaviors that perhaps were passed on from teachers, parents or society.  By taking the time to identify what you don’t want, you can become clear on what you do want.

It is like when someone is giving you something that you want.  They have a present for you, but your hands are full with stuff.  You are holding a bunch of junk in your hands.  In order to allow yourself to receive the present, you have to let go of all that junk.  By writing down what you don’t want first you are letting go of the junk and open up the space to bring in greater clarity on what you do want.

The next step is to identify what you do want. Most people don’t know what they want; therefore, they continue to attract what they don’t want.  By identifying what you want, you are given a different focal point, rather than staying in the energy of what you don’t want.  Whatever you focus on is what you get, so it is better to be clear on what you want so you attract more of that!

The next step is to ask yourself is “How will I feel once I have what I want?” The reason you want to become clear on how you will think you will feel is because ultimately this is what you wanted to feel in the first place.  By tapping into these feelings, you are tapping into the energy that will carry you through the process.

Then you will want to tune-in so you can recognize if you are feeling any energy shifts. If you are feeling shifts in your energy, you will notice that your inner chatter has begun to quiet down.

Lastly, ask yourself, “What am I inspired to do now?” This allows your inner guidance to unfold.  By tapping into the energy of your feelings, you can access a higher vibration that allows guidance to come through easily.  It is important to take action when you receive guidance.  When you move from a place of guided inspired action, then it will feel natural and comfortable for you to take the next steps.

The inspired action gives you the next best step.  When you take a next step, the possibilities change.  You are that much closer to what you want and at the same time you can become high on the energy.  You are aligned with and supported by Spirit for whatever you desire to manifest.  The inspired action moves the energy.  It changes the blueprint and opens up your energy.

By doing this process, you are literally shifting your vibration so you can take action more easily.   By managing your energies there is no need then for you to try to push yourself through it.

I encourage you to try this process and see how easily it can help you manage your chatter.  It seems simple, however, my clients tell me all the time that this is one of the easiest ways that they are able to get more things done.

And as always, we appreciate your comments

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If you are feeling inspired to learn more about how you can stop your chatter and to receive examples and a template to help you reign in your inner chatter, I invite you to connect check out our upcoming teleclass, “Beyond the Overwhelm“